BREAKING THE CYCLE
THROUGH UNDERSTANDING
often, we feel
out of control of the situation around us. sometimes,
we are not in control of our self. ultimately, the
only facet of any situation we can manage is our self, so
let us focus there. it takes two to dance, two to
argue, two to have a war, two to agree to disagree...
if we choose not to engage disrespectfully, there is no
escalation - it stops here. so, let us look at how we
can strengthen our self for such resolve.
statistical state of
things
including
information about bullying, gangs, abuse; plus links to
helpful articles
an inside job
consider that
over which you have control - your self - and what you can
do
belief system
your belief
system is built based on past experiences, thought, and the
manner in which you process thought-your thoughts about
life, which you have come to believe, are true to
you-understanding your belief system is critical to managing
your self
setting boundaries
setting
boundaries is a healthy way of managing oneself - know what
is and what is not your responsibility
respect, not power & control
here are the
respectful non-violent behaviors versus those which are
violent and abusive
self talk & other ways to chill
our self-talk
can be a helpful tool to diffuse anger and understand our
true feelings so that we can manage our self effectively and
productively
compassion
compassion is a
tool for managing behavior and for preventing abusive
reactions. here is a five step program outlining how
to heal self and others through compassion.
how do I feel?
ways to
discover your feelings plus how to own them and express them
without blaming
making peace with what
is
making peace
with what is equals making peace with no; you can only
control what you ask for - you have no control over what
shows up
negotiating win-win
empathy and
objectivity offer powerful tools for strengthening
interpersonal relationships, particularly during
negotiations and conflicts -- WIN/WIN negotiation is a
process of mutual support and discovery that nurtures
solutions, fosters long-term relationships and provides
everyone involved with what they need
abundance, not scarcity
there is plenty
for every one
unplug emotional buttons
emotional
buttons are "hot spots" that ignite when something provokes
a far memory -- leave the past behind... be where you are
now and set your sights for the future
communication for conflict resolution
key points
about respectful communication in conflict resolution
anger and children
consider
whether behavior is age-appropriate, and then address a
child accordingly -- remember that spanking a child teaches
them that hitting is a tool to be used to control others --
use productive tactics
resources
here are places
to go for help - or check with your insurance plan for
behavioral therapists in your neighborhood
more to come...
just wade
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